Do you want to be successful in life?
You are 80 years old and you look back on your life with complete satisfaction and no regrets.
Sounds amazing, doesn’t it?
It is easier than you think.
With a correct view of reality, a little attention, and a basic plan, you can achieve anything you want!
In this post, you’ll learn
- The 3 simple (so simple it may make you mad) steps to have a successful life
- How to get back if your life is not what you want it to be
What Exactly is Success?
Successful means to achieve a favorable outcome or a desired aim.
So take a minute and think about what you want to aim for.
You’ll be glad you did.
The Only Surefire Way to Be a Success in Your Life
The number one most important goal for you to focus on has to do with the person you are, your character.
Here’s THE SECRET:
Whenever you are the right person, the right opportunities will come your way.
Let me say it again differently.
Your life will prosper in every way when your soul, the person you are on the inside, prospers.
You may get those riches or material possessions you work your entire life for, and it ends up destroying you.
Loss of family, addiction, many physical ailments. That is an all too common story.
Do you consider that a successful life or something else? Is that what you want?
“What good does it do to gain the whole world and lose your soul? What will you give in exchange for your soul?”
The only way to ensure that you will be successful in all of life is to focus on the one thing you have the right and ability to control – Yourself.
Develop the internal life of your character and you will win no matter what!
Glad you got that. Now what?
Where or Who Will You be in Twenty Years
One of my favorite sayings for many years has been “What I do today is where or who I will be in twenty years.”
In reality, it is 5, 10, or even 3 years, but twenty has been my magic number for whatever reason.
Your desired Aim
Carefully decide where you want to be in twenty years. What do you want your life to look like?
If you follow through with this simple step, you will be far ahead of most people.
Most of us just drift through life allowing others, family, friends, entertainment, society, etc. to determine our path and then we die.
Or we often decide based on how we feel at the moment and end up on an undesirable path.
Sounds awful, doesn’t it?
But that will not be your story
You have decided you are going to have the success you want and not be dragged along by others or by your feelings.
Do you want health, wealth, a happy family, good friends? Do you want to live in a certain place, change a certain thing in the world, build something that outlasts you?
You have one life. Really take the time to make excellent choices.
Realize that one of the beautiful things about life is that you can always have fresh starts, so don’t freak out at this, just make a choice in a positive direction and get moving.
Do the best things every day
Once you’ve figured out where and who you are going to be in your life, the next step is super basic.
Make the small, seemingly insignificant, decisions every day that will lead you on the path to your goal.
At this point I hear my husband saying:
“What you pay attention to will improve.” or “You can make excuses or progress, but not both.” or “You can accomplish anything in one hour a day.”
These are all true. Pay attention and be engaged in the reality of your life. Fight the urge to check out or give up and you will find success.
No one can be on task or target 100% of the time. That would be too much order and control and will make you a tyrant to yourself and most likely the others in your life.
The 80% rule is good to follow, so you don’t become obsessed with anything to a point that it has the opposite effect instead of bringing your life success. This means doing the necessary thing 80% of the time.
You want to be healthy as you age – eat well and use your body regularly.
You want to have a happy family – learn how to serve them well and use your time to that end. Don’t get sucked into the crazy culture. Carve out time regularly to be together without distractions. Talk (what an idea!), play a game, read a book aloud, go for a walk, or any other activity you like.
You want good, close, lifelong friends – be friendly and caring and attempt to show you care.
You want to change the world – do the hard work to be the person who others can follow to make that dream a reality.
You want to travel – live simply and save money instead of blowing it on whatever you want at any given moment.
There are endless examples of desires and the choices you need to make to get there, but this is where your time and energy will come in.
Reap the rewards
In your future life, you will look around you and have your eyes open to see the reality of your life and your situation.
Let your “how did I get here?” be exciting and not despairing
You will end up being the person and find yourself in the place that you desired when you have been intentional and have made the necessary choices over a long period of time.
It’s not magic, it’s the way life works.
Congratulations on your successful life!
I know this seems so simple, so basic. But most things in life are. You just have to realize the rules that govern the world and engage in it correctly.
So, what about if you haven’t done well?
Half My Life Has Passed and I Hate Where I’m at
Does your life suck?
Here’s the good news:
If you are still breathing, there is still time.
What is it you don’t like? Face it, call it out, give it a name.
Once you’re aware of the what, now you need to determine the how.
Look completely honestly, leaving none of the ugly out, at the choices you made that got you here. You may have an immediate reaction to look at the effect that those other people had in getting you here.
It is essential to not give in to those thoughts. You are solely responsible for the choices you’ve made and where you are in your life.
You, and only you, can make your life different from this point. So look at the choices you’ve made to get you to where or who you are and make the opposite or better choice.
That is the simple answer, but it will be very hard work. The process is the same as above, but the longer you’ve made the wrong choices that have led you here, the more perseverance and utter determination you will need to go the other way.
The struggle to give in to the thought that it’s too late, you are who you are and have wasted or ruined your life will may feel overwhelming.
But don’t give in!
Admit your failures, forgive yourself and others, restore your relationships, change your daily choices, and find that life you’ve always wanted.
Until you have taken your last breath, you can still be who you want to be.