What should I do with my life?
What you should do with your life until you know what to do with your life is—explore, analyze, and adapt every week until you know your life purpose.
“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.” Buddha
The five explorations you will learn today will help you to know what to do with your life this week and set you on the fast track to having your life purpose emerge.
- Refine Your Archetype into Impactful Words
- Discover What You Believe that Few Others Do
- Learn What You Love to Do
- Craft a Plan that Fulfills Your Purpose
- Uncover How You Love to Celebrate
Like a skyscraper, each exercise builds on top of each other: a foundation, first floor, second floor, to a penthouse with an impressive view.
Let’s get down to business.
1. Determine Your Word Archetype
When asked what do you do at your next social gathering, instead of responding with the typical “my life biceps are bigger than yours” answer, or “I don’t know what to do, I’m in-between right now.”:
- You reply with a handful of powerful words that describe your purpose.
You can discover these few words that reveal a glimpse of your purpose with the word archetype personality test.
What is the Word Archetype Personality Test?
This word test is a simple exercise that will show you not what to do specifically, but what the specific endeavors you participate in do for people and organizations you are involved in, your purpose.
Discovering your word archetype personality will do these few things for you and more,
- Learn what “buckets” your skills fit into best
- Help you to see how to bring the greatest good in all relationships
- Show you roles, jobs, and positions you will thrive in
- Reveal to you why you have rifted others,
- failed at specific jobs,
- and more accidental errors in your past.
The word archetype test involves a few simple steps. Here’s step one.
Step One: Look at a list of “archetypes” and write any “word type” that semi resonates with your personality.
Here’s how to do this first step.
What you are going to do is look at a list of words.
Then from this list, on a piece of paper or in a journal, write the specific words that jump out to you because you feel they may be connected with your past or future story.
You can’t have too many on your list; if it slightly resonates, write it down!
Here’s the list of words to begin determining your archetype:
Now hang on:
Deep down, you know it’s true that most of the exercises will be “easy.” That’s missing the point.
Every worthwhile journey from learning a language, playing the piano, and discovering the reason you were born are a series of combined “easy” steps that are a complex system when accomplished in their entirety.
I’ll walk you through the whole process.
Remember, you’re building a skyscraper for your life.
Stick with me here and do not scroll to see the rest of the screen until you finish the next step, which is step two.
Step Two: Look at your list of word archetypes and circle only one, your most compelling one.
The second step is that simple, circle the word that stands out to you the most.
Is one word circled? Boom.
Before the final step (which is the most difficult), here are steps three and four.
Steps 3 & 4: Repeat the first step two more times, circling a second and third word on your shortlist that pops out to you until you have three words circled.
The next step is to write all three of your circled words at the bottom of your paper:
Writing – Service – Languages
Ever wondered why you failed at certain jobs, hurt others, or couldn’t help a situation you had a burning desire to make a difference?
The next step will give you some clues.
The final most challenging step?
The final most rifting step is to eradicate all other words on your shortlist and steadfastly commit to creating and pursuing opportunities within your three-word archetype.
Here are a few ways this has played out for me:
My three words are warrior, vision, and leader. Seeing these few words hit me like a ton of bricks.
Learning this revealed why I had hurt specific people in my life that I dearly loved because of my innate tendencies to be a helper that is, at the same time, a bulldog.
- By learning, I need to be out of administrative and recurring tasks.
- (administrator and operator, words that are not within my three words)
- And that I can’t encourage someone to “want” rescuing.
- (healing, comforting, etc.)
Over time, this simplified my business and life, and a mission statement emerged.
Here’s a clue to discover yours:
Take a moment looking at your three words and meditate on experiences that came quickly to you, prior roles you loved. Also, think about recurring rifts in life experiences, current, and previous relationships.
The common denominator in these gloomy and positively powerful situations is your kingdom and your three words.
This next exercise will help you uncover great ideas for your career, vocation, or a business that comes alongside your archetype.
I learned of this 3-word exercise and many other how to craft a life you love principles in a powerful book with the cheesiest cover ever called, “Thomas Jefferson Education for Teens (And Every Adult that wants to Change the World).”
Yes, I read it in my thirties, lol.
2. Discover What You Believe that Few Others Do
How do you know what your purpose in life is?
The fastest way to discover your purpose in life is to uncover your unique ideas and beliefs.
When you learn what you believe that few others do, your life purpose will emerge, which reveals what you are supposed to do and—what you want to do in life.
For possibly the first time, it will dawn on you that you have unique skills, passions, and experiences that no other life has ever had, and there is a reason you were born.
Which reveals you are essential.
- A 100% unique and beautiful human being that no one can compete with or duplicate.
Here’s how to discover your unique ideas and beliefs.
What You Believe that Few Others Do
The “What do you believe that few others do exercise” is simply a list of 20, 50, or 300+ ideas you believe are relatively uncommon.
Let me show you how.
All you do is begin writing little ideas and beliefs you hold that are somewhat unique in a journal, google doc, or a free list tool like Workflowy.
[using a free list tool like Workflowy will help you organize this list in the next step, determining what to do in life]
No one will grade the perfection of your language or the depth of impact of these ideas. At this stage, none of that is relevant.
In fact, it is better not to think about what you are writing but to dump all of the ideas, especially the silliest ones, the instant they pop into your mind.
Here’s an example of some of the beliefs and ideas on my list.
Notice all the grammar and spelling mistakes pointed out by Grammarly? Make the same mistakes, just write!
Tips to Complete this Critical Self Awareness Step
The chances are that, like my first time participating in this exercise, your mind only gave you four or five items.
That’s normal and okay.
The next morning I re-visited the exercise and increased my unique ideas to over fifty in session two.
An important takeaway from this lesson is to realize your list will never be complete.
Think about it another way:
As you learn and grow in discovering and living your purposeful life, you will continue to add more items to this custom belief list that no other person in the world can create.
Sometimes the current overthinking crutch rears its head in this exercise. It may help to as opposed to “What do you believe that few other do” – simply begin by writing beliefs you hold that not everyone believes or knows… yet.
The point is not to create something wholly new and revolutionary. The point is to show you that:
- When you see these beliefs that lie just beneath the surface of you, when combined, that is when the “new and revolutionary” will stand out.
And you know what?
When you realize this truth—only you are you, and there has never been or ever will be another you.
It makes it easy to do what you love in life and know that it matters.
Have some ideas and beliefs jotted down?
Here’s what to do next.
3. Learn What You Love to Do
What should you do in your life for a career? What should you do for a living?
After you have your unique ideas and beliefs list created, you will quickly see that these beliefs fall under a handful of buckets.
- wealth building,
- fitness or weight loss,
- quality time,
- and other broad topics.
You were likely unaware of it but, eradicating unhappiness for others in one or more of these “buckets” was a primary motivator that drove you when creating your unique list of beliefs.
“If you encounter unhappiness…you can not be happy in a limitless, unlimited sense.” Fredric Lehman.
You said in your mind; the world would be a better place if most instead of a few knew, believed, and experienced these specific ideas.
The Lost Art of Loving
Many miss discovering their purpose because they don’t understand how much discipline and faith, launching into the unknown, is necessary.
This misunderstanding pans out in passivity, looking for a sign from heaven or sorting messages signaling what you should do with your life… waiting.
The necessary switch to flip, the crucial actions that you need to own is simply this:
- Giving without expecting anything in return
“For the productive character giving has an entirely different meaning. Giving is the highest expression of potency…
The experience of heightened vitality fills me with joy. I experience myself as overflowing, spending, alive, hence as joyous. Giving is more joyous than receiving, not because it is a deprivation, but because in the act of giving lies the expression of my aliveness.” Erich Fromm–The Art of Loving.
Find Your Purpose and Do What You Love
With your unique ideas list, what you have just created is a necessary recipe for success—a transformation.
Helping 1,000 true fans achieve this transformation is how to do what you love that comes alongside your purpose.
On your one-of-a-kind list are 30-300+ pieces of “content ideas” in the same or similar “niche market.” The first step of becoming a successful internet marketer.
This is called—becoming a content creator instead of a “screens” consumer: What you’re doing right now!
Is It Scary?
Yes, it’s scary. It’s your freaking purpose in life, staring you in your face.
Which is why you need discipline and faith.
“Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains by itself alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” Jesus.
- “The Sage desires to be desireless” Lao Tzu
- “Whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.” Jesus
- “To know yourself is to forget yourself.” Dōgen Zenji
This brings up the question you secretly dread:
- “If you desire to be desireless or lose yourself: Where’s the fun? What of you will be left?”
I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read these words from C.S. Lewis (when writing as a demon Screwtape) trying to steer a “patient” from this losing yourself way:
“When He [God] talks of their losing themselves, He means only abandoning the clamour of self-will; once they have done that, He really gives them back all their personality, and boasts (I am afraid, sincerely) that when they are wholly His they will be more themselves than ever.”
The bottom line is this:
You have a unique message and impact for others bottled up inside, waiting to be unleashed.
What should you do next with your life?
What you should do next with your life is “group” your beliefs and ideas list into “shows.”
Then create and publish one to four “episodes” of each show every week. Influencing the world for good from you.
Why is this important?
The obvious one, you can make money and not work a j.o.b when you do this.
But the not so obvious is:
When you flush out these ideas by teaching, you realize holes, gaps, and loops in your thoughts that need improvement and connections.
What does this mean?
With every piece of content you create, you learn more about the most significant problem you need to solve—you.
Here are two of the most impactful ways to experience giving, reach the most people, and do what you love every day.
- Write blog articles or,
- Talk the ideas out loud by creating YouTube videos
I was honored to ask the man that introduced me to this “giving” away online idea, Miles Beckler, how this has affected him.
Listen to his answer:
4. Craft a Plan that Fulfills Your Purpose
Buddha’s quote, “Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.” is not only accurate but also reveals the way.
What is the critical takeaway you will learn from these life purpose exercises?
Each experiment is revealing:
- What You Want to do With Your Time, Which is Your Life.
An exercise that will help you clarify a plan to fulfill your purpose in life is— the perfect day exercise.
Before going into this powerful solitude and silence exercise, a few points need to be clarified.
- All limiting beliefs must be eroded and dismissed for a period of time.
- You can’t screw it up.
- At first, the result will be a best guess.
- As your best guess becomes more clarified, by experience and wisdom, a re-visiting of this exercise is not only desirable—it is necessary.
The Ultimate Pulse Check on Your Purpose
Over the past few years, I have “redone” this exercise 3-4 times. Each time what I love to do, what I am supposed to be doing continues to be more and more refined.
Let’s dive into the fourth exercise.
The Perfect Day Exercise
What is the perfect day exercise?
The perfect day exercise is simply writing out an ideally perfect and typical day. You write down every detail in your day, from when you wake up to your bedtime routine.
To perform the perfect day exercise, you simply get alone for a few hours and on a piece of paper, write answers to questions like these about a perfect day:
- What does your atmosphere look like when you wake up?
- What do you do first in your perfect day?
- Who is in your home? What are they doing?
- In your ideal day, what do you do for “work”?
- How do you create a piece of “ideas” content?
- What do you eat and drink throughout your day?
- What are your evening activities?
- What is your bedtime routine?
There are two excellent sources of this exercise on YouTube that go into in-depth detail, but they call the activity by a different name.
The shorter of the two versions, about twenty minutes long, is the video that introduced me to this exercise here on YouTube. (if you only watch one, I recommend this one)
The original (I think) source is a very long keynote given to “marketers” by Frank Kern, and it is called Core Influence. This keynote describes the “Perfect Day Exercise” in the first half of the presentation, then shares how to do the activity for “customer avatars” to aid marketing efforts.
You can watch Frank Kern’s keynote here on YouTube.
How to Never Quit on Yourself
Until you begin to create your life, you can’t realize your entire personality.
Because of the industrial revolution and basically modern slavery revolted against by unions in the 1900s, you likely work for five days a week right now.
This structure built in the fabric of western culture is the perfect system to:
On one of those days of apparent freedom (the weekend), work for yourself instead of your boss.
Go against this grain by starting and sticking to uncovering your purpose in two ways:
- Reset new each week to stop wasting time
- Think in 6-day periods
- Instead of 30, 90 days challenges, or New Years Resolutions.
6-Days at a time is what man did by “sabbathing” for thousands and thousands of years.
This leads us to your final experiment, that is probably the most difficult.
5. Uncover How You Love to Celebrate
Covenant to learning how to answer this question, how do you love to celebrate?
At the end of your workweek and for one full day, 24-hour period: Celebrate and don’t do business as usual.
Turn off your mind and conversations from “work” and the grind of life, don’t check social media or email, and learn how to celebrate and give thanks for the blessings you continually receive.
How do you want to celebrate at the end of this workweek?
Plan it and make it happen.
Then, explore, analyze, and adapt to improve learning how you love to celebrate better at the end of next week.
By learning how to pay yourself first in your week and end the week by celebrating:
- Over time you will convince your mind of the truth that you are more than strong enough to break from living life as a consumer.
That you can—live the life you were born to live as a co-creator, fulfilling your purpose.
The Sad Alternative to Discovering Your Purpose
Why is it important to find your purpose in life?
Life purpose is as essential to living as oxygen. Purpose breeds motivation to overcome every life obstacle. It’s important to create a unique life; the only way not to be a replaceable robot.
When life has no meaning, no purpose, checking out to get by, and even ending life becomes a temptation.
To matter to a few is one of the first stages of being fully alive.
Want never to be depressed, avoid a midlife crisis, eliminate any thoughts of harming yourself or others?
Discover what you and God want to accomplish together in the world, your purpose!